g-087 wrotefirst of all studies revealed that confident and secure persons show less body gestures than others (you might not have a lot of clues to study them). that lady is not only showing a lot of body gestures but also flirting gestures!!!
that means that she's agitated and insecure and also you're her weak point. you can't find a better person to study bossy ladies!!! all you have to do is to maintain a small chat and to keep her agitated and insecure in time. more you have met bossy ladies more you can do it easily. you can't imagine how much informations about her 'bossy' personality she can reveal you.
This is part of my studies technique. you might not agree with me and I respect that.
but I'm interested to know about your technique on how to study people on the field and if you have any critics on mine you welcome.
- a character with a spine is more respected as a friend or a foe in comparison to a character that pleases and gestures as a friend or a foe.
- for one thing, dude, get the hint, i did not have interest in that character, I just got married two months ago, and one of the reasons to stop something at a dead point is to stop for rumors to fire up from such acts. working environments can be very active and hefty with that. so it is not always about the single body language session, it is about being two steps ahead and controlling the situation. it is always case dependent as to which works in which interest, being blunt could be your ticket way out of it, then again it could be being pleasant. there are cultural differences that need to be noted, in some countries, you can never play the blunt role, in others, if you dont, then you aint got balls.
- now consider a character, a bossy lady that has a crush on you, you have made it clear with "humane" methods the lack of interest. this character continues hitting on you, not giving up, then you switch to the blunt and rude role, you will have hard time gaining the result because you have played the different roles. that is as if playing all your cards in a poker game. in such a case, things are going to backfire at some point, actually on several points. instead of going head to head on the subject and regardless of the means of being pleasant or mean, you would approach the case from a different angle and subject before the other even gets to that point where the other is geared up to face your pleasant or mean response. a preemptive action.
- in regards to the means and methods, yes, confident people withhold themselves and are often blunt. due to the fact that they do not need to be otherwise unless they are playing with someone in order to gain something. this something often is a short term gain of which they get bored of after the win.
- as for the interaction with a bossy lady, continuing on your presumption, the technique that you described could backfire, the reason for that is a bossy character needs to make a braking point decision as to when to call it off if no results are gained within a given time period, going beyond that braking point will only irritate the long term relationship between the two characters.
- in regards to technique, the answer is simple, be objective and not subjective when observing, have a broad "database" of characters and situations to refer to.
