barrad wroteIt turns out, she sees someone. As I expected. I felt I should share this, as you guys were trying to help.
Thank you.
Thank you for sharing. Whatever follow up is better then nothing. I've seen many thread where someone posts asking for help then when everybody contributed they are nowhere to be seen even for a simple "thanks". But you were never like that so don't worry.
It's interesting your story parallels one that I had, and even more then one. It seems to be like a pattern. I think there is more to it then just an unfortunate coincidence.
Basically it goes like this: the girl gives off ambiguous signals that she is interested in you. You hesitate and finally think it's about time you make a move to push things a bit - since she doesn't seem to be making one. And when you do, she is sorry, she it seeing someone, and she has that sweet pity/guilty look in her eyes (or tone in her voice, or whatever).
If you go bezerk due to her mixed signals, you will end up feeling bad and blaming yourself (or the other way around, maybe). If you manage to stay cool, then maybe, just maybe it starts to appear that you have nothing to blame yourself for.
I guess it could be pushed one step further, if you play her game (assuming it's one) and remain friends, maybe her game would break down and it would become obvious that she only meant to flirt and get your attention.
Note that "I am seeing someone" doesn't mean "no". It probably means "push on at your own risk". You probably persist and get somewhere with her. She doesn't seem to be the "straight shooter" devoted type at all, if there is any such thing, so you could probably even get to the point where she would consider leaving her boyfriend for you. But you will always be walking on a minefield, knowing that whatever happened to the previous guy can and probably will happen to you, and you most probably will not be treated with much consideration and heart, but would get all the blame instead.
That is of course all speculation, but I fairly believe in it, based on my experience.