rtp wroteit sounds like a lot of people are living in la la land, you are watching a lot of romance movies
I don't believe that is the case. As I said before, it's not about feelings. Relationships are about building trust. When you ask the wrong people for input, you are disrespecting your real life family and your potential spouse. He should calculate the pros and cons with the affected people and not us random people on the internet.
Why should she commit to a relationship with him when he is consulting us instead of her and his family?