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Sexual development is what is important. Many start experimenting with sex early before their twenties. Many haven't had sex till they were in their mid twenties. The first time you had sex affects you only for a small time. It won't be perfect and in my opinion it is better to not have your first sexual experience with someone you care about because lack of sexual experience will put a pressure on your relationship regardless of your gender. You'll also obsess about it. You will feel you need to have sex one more time to actually enjoy sex. After your second time, sex will become a normal thing. You will start to allow yourself to enjoy more sexual practices. Sex will be much much nicer when you are more relaxed.
Eventually you will fall in love with someone and then sex will turn into something more than intercourse. It will become more intimate.
Almost everything we do in life is because of sexual desires. If you win a basketball match, this is a big boost for your ego. The more successful you are, the more confident you are and the more you're willing to experience and have fun during sex.
My advice to people who haven't experienced sex yet is not to make a big deal out of it or feel suppressed. Sex isn't really a big deal. Trust me on this one. You won't suddenly look different or feel different after sex.
You will feel better after your second sexual experience especially if it is with the same partner because it gives you more confidence in yourself. But afterwards you'll realize it's something so normal that it's not all that big of a deal.
My first sexual experience was maybe 8 years ago. Now, when I have sex, it's fun nothing more.

The girlfriend/boyfriend argument is not directly related to sex in my opinion. In many arab countries like Egypt (go to Cario to an area called Tahrir along the Nile at 8PM at night). So many people have boyfriends/girlfriends but very little are sexually active because of culturally enforced ideas.

I was in an evangelical school in Beirut when I was a kid. We only got lectures about sexual awareness once. We were kids back then and found it more funny than educational. Perhaps it is the method that sexual educational is delivered that is important.

rahmu wroteI love masturbation.
Maybe lebgeeks feel the same when they read your blog :D
2 months later
hey guys how are you.
this is an interesting subject. i really like reading thees stuff.
i believe that Freud theory is deeper and scarier than you think
i like to use a quote so u can understand what i mean and i'M sorry it's in French :|

"L'orgueil humain a reçu trois grands démentis, souligne Freud dans l'introduction a la psychanalyse: Copernic a montre que la Terre n'était pas au centre de l'univers, Darwin que l'homme était un animal parmi d'autres et maintenant la psychanalyse fait apparaitre que le "moi" n'est pas maitre chez lui"

can you imagine how big is his discovery?!
for the first time someone tels you that you have another you in you :/ and guess what!! HE RULES!!
OMG it's devastating and this is why Freud is great and not because he linked every thing to sexual needs.

although he might bi right. and he is sometimes. i agree with him about 70% i believe that it's related to sexual activities but not as deeper as he go

anyway have you ever thought that it's possible to deal with someone subconscious directly?? if you can do it you rule!!
and that why i took my studies to a next level: hacking minds

i invite you to share your opinion on this subject: body language and mind hacking
don't be shy
DON'T HACK COMPUTERS, HACK MINDS :)

http://www.lebgeeks.com/forums/viewtopic.php?id=7231
It's really evil how cheap some of you guys would sell their bodies and are even pushing into making it a daily habit. You even totally ignored the fact that sex is prohibited before marriage!

There's a reason for everything! And the implication of doing sex your way is a pure devil call for enslaving more and more people under the name of sin! Excuse me, but I have 0 respect for being THAT open!

It's not like a mystery you need to solve! It's not like a lesson you need to learn and excel at! Everyone is born AWARE of sex, you dont need to learn it! God gave you this will, just use it in the right time, and dont let others persuade you! Trust what God gave you! Come on people, get your directions on the right track again! Sex is holy, and should only be shared with the person you love, and of course if you love your partner you would immediately make it a formal engagement.

WRONG! Sex isn't like eating or drinking. It's your weak will that made it so! You know! If you're man enough you can persevere, to the end! ;)
@moonchild I had written an angry reply to the first part of your message where you say you have 0 respect for "being that open", but then I read the rest and It's surprising that I actually agree with part of what you said, and I like what you said, you put in words things that I like to remember.

But then I have to ask, who here are "selling" their bodies?

And also I didn't get that last part very well, the one about being weak and persevering. Without what you call "weakness" 1/2 the world population would not exist. What you bash so nicely is the origin of new life - and you are judging it. Heck if sex wasn't involved 3/4 of the people wouldn't have seen any reason to marry.

And what's that last part about "persevering"? I'd rather pretend that I didn't understand it (and frankly I don't think I did)
moonchild wroteand of course if you love your partner you would immediately make it a formal engagement.
What's so sure about that?
@moonchild: Or perhaps you only think so because you were raised as such, like 99% of people who were raised like you act.
There's absolutely nothing special about people, get over it. We so happen to have a greater ability to think (and most of us are not even able to handle it much better than chimps do). Our self image is so inflated that we need to make things much greater than they are to sooth ourselves. It's a ridiculously scary idea for you, I am very sure, to contemplate what I am saying. Of course, the next thing you'll do is have an internal block, and rage against what it is you are reading. Sex is such a great part of social life. Go figure why religions and holy regimes give it so much importance. What you do with your penis and your life is totally up to you. Screw up, others will beat you down.. That is what everything boils down to. No need for glorious descriptions.

For you guys, Freud was raised in a patriarchal society. To him, the father is everything... While a genius of psychology, he couldn't escape the pitfalls of his own personality, to see that his depiction of the mother, as just another female (as just another sexual object), is just his desire to be protected by the mother. To make a story short:

What freud really wanted to tell you, the reason you always go back to lebgeeks is the same reason that you as a child was so attached to your mother. You need a protective cover around you. Somewhere to go back to and feel absolutely safe.

Give it a spec of expanding in your brain before you shut it off and start collapsing what I said: Try to live outside the protective womb you're always trying to get back into.
i don't know how clever you are for someone who's trying to support these stuff , as for me i think straight , to explain more when i want something either cancel it or wait , the man issue that we all know about : if you believe that you can't handle yourself as a man and your urged to marry a girl (because of what we see on the streets , tv , even sometimes in our houses , basically everywhere,...) i know two advices for you ask for help From our GOD keep praying for patience until you can marry البنت ال حلال or if possible ask your father/someone to help you out and that you want to get marry as soon as possible , now if someone will criticize me that asking help from our God is hopeless and its a no way solution my answer is that you didn't try it and you don't know who is you God and what are his capabilities .

Believe me this is an issue from like 30000000 years ago or whatever years ago ; if until now you can't handle your emotions , your stuff , you will never be able to defeat your enemies if you don't know how to defeat your inside/devil !

To explain why some of us *caught* Rahmu *caught* react this way because first of all the devil will misuse you with his talk until you begin to react then he will go backwards and leave you alone , the point is he uses your weakness until he sees that the emotion has taken over your mind and he will leave you alone , now the problem is that when it becomes an habit and you can't stop it until you will say i love that... where this react have other bad effects to your body/mind.

There are many explanation of why you do these stuff , because you have a problem (s) with your life .

If you win a basketball match and you will be happy because of that you will think about theses stuff , THAT'S A LIE , true happiness will never make you think that way , true happiness when it comes from your prayers when your skin tickles that is true happiness and that will never lead you to rahmu's/other's reactions !
I missed this thread, what are you guys talking about?

Masturbation and sex before marriage?
I hope the members will not start flaming each other – remember, we are all friends here.
Oh and, can people please stop using god in their arguments? It is worse that using hitler or nazism (Godwin's law).
Aj_BlaZ wrotekeep praying for patience until you can marry البنت ال حلال or if possible ask your father/someone to help you out and that you want to get marry as soon as possible , now if someone will criticize me that asking help from our God is hopeless and its a no way solution my answer is that you didn't try it and you don't know who is you God and what are his capabilities .
And I wondered why I didn't fit in Lebanon... we are worlds apart :-)
You know I basically agree on the fact that sleeping with someone is special and should not be shared with anyone and has some consequences to it. But I came to this conclusion on my own, and I don't tell people what to do, I guess everyone will find his place on their own. It is a difficult process, but I would rather personally go through that then listen to instructions given by others about what is good or not, but that's just me.
*Gets popcorn*
samer wrotecan people please stop using god in their arguments?
Freedom of speech... I don't agree with them either but I suppose it's their right, if this is what they believe.
(As long as it remains civil as you said)
Bassem wrote
samer wrotecan people please stop using god in their arguments?
Freedom of speech... I don't agree with them either but I suppose it's their right, if this is what they believe.
(As long as it remains civil as you said)
Which is relative, thus why shouldn't be used in the arguments.
Bassem wrote
samer wrotecan people please stop using god in their arguments?
Freedom of speech... I don't agree with them either but I suppose it's their right, if this is what they believe.
(As long as it remains civil as you said)
Freedom of speech has nothing to do with it, I did not ask them not to use god when expressing their opinions/beliefs. I specifically asked not using it in argumentation, which is based on logic and reason and not belief.
samer wroteFreedom of speech has nothing to do with it, I did not ask them not to use god when expressing their opinions/beliefs. I specifically asked not using it in argumentation, which is based on logic and reason and not belief.
To them, it is an inseparable part of reason and logic; thus it will be part of what they consider a logical argument. It's a matter of different perspectives.