Stygmata wrotefriendship between man and woman cannot exist ..unless both are asexual
Take a heterosexual woman and man couple.
- They can have a love or whatever relationship with sex.
- They can be lovers without sex (after all "love" encompasses many things)
- They can be friends without sex. You can be friends with a woman. It doesn't mean you're asexual. Maybe she has a boyfriend and you don't want to (can't) mess with that. Maybe you're not attracted to her (or she is not to you). There are a quadrillion other reasons for not having sex with a woman, while still being able to enjoy their company sometimes. Maybe after years of following your theory/philosophy and having little success, you will accept to "be friends" with a beautiful woman, even if you have little chances at something else, just to have the chance of spending some time with her and maybe taking her out or who knows, and maybe you will realize that you like hanging out with her so if you can't have anything else with her, why not?
- They can be friends and have sex (booty call, friends with benefits, or whatever it's called). I'm not totally sure about that but I believe in it.
What's fundamentally problematic with friendship between a man and a women? To be honest it sounds a bit misogyn what you say.
I believe that lasting relationships (which would include successfully married couples) are a mix of friendship and the other stuff - including habits and routine I guess.
How can you live with someone if you can't be friends with them, at least a little?
I am aware of the "friend zone" theory and all that - to be honest the "friend zone" is only a problem if you're uniquely interested (desperate, actually) in humping the woman, and you would have picked her only based on her looks and hump-ability, and had most your interaction with her based around this concern, following a particular system of beliefs in which you would not have really been yourself or enjoyed yourself. In this case and with this particular perspective, it is not pleasant to be "stuck in the friend zone" and difficult to be friends with her - especially since, in this mindset (and after putting in so much effort), you being "just friends" is equated to failure and humiliation.